You must remind him of someone in his past. Or possibly he is frightened by something on you. Things like hats, jewelry, fingernail polish, tattoos, hair style or color, designs on clothing can all scare some birds. Slow down and let him set the pace. Leave him alone don't force interactions on him. What is his favorite treat? Figure this out by watching him when he's fed. What does he take from the bowl first. Once you know what his favorite couple are stop giving them to him in his food bowl. Put them aside and only you give him these treats, not your husband or daughter. Make him want to see you by being the good person who brings him treats. When you first start do not look at him eye contact can be seen as aggressive to birds/prey animals. Talk very softly and move slowly. Place a treat in his bowl through the bars and walk away. This may take days or weeks even a month or more before he begins to calm down. Do this when no one else is around or in the same room as the two of you.