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#101016 - 07/18/07 08:56 AM Re: My new lil one arrived today.  

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Well....I spent pretty much the entire day with Jake riding on my shoulder, sitting on the couch with him and what have you and doing some MAJOR soul searching as to what the right thing to do is. Lil Jake had a wonderful time hanging out with me...even fed me several times today and at one point while we were laying on the couch watching TV he got under my chin and layed on his back playing with my chin with his feet. I just cant let him go. For the biggest part of his life he has been a great novelty item for a while and then not so fun to who ever anymore. He likes me, really likes his new house and the fact he isnt locked in it. He has gained 5 gramms already and is loving his new diet....I dont want to give him even more baggage by sending him out even with good intentions in doing so. There is a bird out there waiting to be found and when I find him I will give him to my brother in law. Just not this old fella. Bobby can come visit all he wants to and learn how to take care of a bird while the right one is waiting to be found. I sure hoipe I made the right decision.

#101017 - 07/18/07 03:18 PM Re: My new lil one arrived today.  
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If you made your decision based solely on what is best for Jake, then you made the right one.


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#101018 - 07/18/07 05:33 PM Re: My new lil one arrived today.  
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M2bb,

Don't worry. You will know with time where Jake should be with. The nice part is that your BIL will still be around for you to pass Jake to if that's the best solution.

Meanwhile as Jake is with you, it lets you see how committed he is in taking care of Jake and not just because Jake is in lurrve with him currently. (see his visits and how much he is willing to learn etc). A bird is for life and not only when the bird is treating you nice wink

#101019 - 07/18/07 06:07 PM Re: My new lil one arrived today.  
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Parrots can be a great novelty for some people when they're new, but when the newness wears off the bird ends up being ignored or worse.

I think few people are willing to make the long, sometimes lifetime commitment to a parrot and all that goes along with it. I'm glad you're keeping Jake.

#101020 - 07/18/07 07:33 PM Re: My new lil one arrived today.  

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This is very dificult for me to say the very least. More times than not, Im a huge push over and will do things even when Ive already said I dont want to or I think its a bad idea....I dont like to rock the boat or upset someone especially when its some one thats been very nice to me but my heart is telling me lil Jake is better HERE. So anyways...yes this decision is based souly on what I think is best for Jake in the LONG RUN and not the ten minutes I saw him totally enjoying someone else.

#101021 - 07/18/07 08:32 PM Re: My new lil one arrived today.  
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M2bb,

The way not to be a pushover is when you have a stronger reason to stay on the course than to give in.

In this case, if you aren't sure whether the BIL is the right choice, then it would be better to keep the bird and see how committed your BIL is to Jake. Explain to him that you feel a responsibility to Jake and after all Jake has been through you want to make extremely sure that whoever he ends up with is the best person for Jake. Say that by coming to your place and interacting with Jake and also learning from you, it will give you greater confidence in deciding whether he (BIL) is the right person. Also whether Jake just like him for a short while when the novelty is new (hey, if people can get birds and enjoy them while is is a novelty, why can't the birds do the same to humans)? wink laugh Hey, wait a minute, birds already do that. After all, don't some of us have experience where the birds love us initially until later they find another person to love and the 1st person is dumped. laugh

Of course I've not put it so 'tactfully' but you need not put it too tactfully. Why? 'Coz 1 of the qualities for a good bird person is when he is able to take opinions which he may not like so well for the benefit of the bird. That means that he will listen to advise that is not just about 'making him feel good'. That he loves the bird more than 'the need for someone to stroke his ego'. That he is able to see why people are asking those questions or saying those things and not misinterpret them to their liking

Just my 2 cents

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Your heart says Jake is better off here. Maybe its your instinct/experience that is telling you that for the time being (maybe temporarily or permanently) that Jake is better here. Why not explain to him that its not a permanent no to BIL but currently you are evaluating whether he is the right person. After all you are now in the fostering and rescue biz. smile

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Did you realise that you just said something 'right' that many 'inexperienced people' tend to make? (people giving up their bird when the bird no longer likes them as they think its better off for the bird. And they give it to the person who 'the bird likes' after observing them for 1 visit. Sometimes this is good but not always as birds are finicky and may like you today but hate/tolerate you for the rest of the time after the initial 1st love.

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yes this decision is based souly on what I think is best for Jake in the LONG RUN and not the ten minutes I saw him totally enjoying someone else.
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Kids like a lot of candy and will thoroughly enjoy the candy while it last. However, it doesn't mean that eating lots of candy is good for them even though they enjoy it more than the healthy vegetables and fruits

Sorry I'm not writing eloquently as I just got lazy to write more clearly. Hope you understand what I'm trying to say. Excuse, or maybe I'm just mumbling along as I'm tired. laugh

#101023 - 07/18/07 09:22 PM Re: My new lil one arrived today.  

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Thank you everyone. This has been a dificult decision for me. Im realizing Being NICE and finding best home isnt something that is gonna go hand in hand for me. lol

#101024 - 07/19/07 06:38 PM Re: My new lil one arrived today.  
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I have not been online in a while so you probably have a name......

If it is a girl, I would name her Iris (for the iris in her eyes). Her eyes are so pretty!

#101025 - 07/19/07 07:33 PM Re: My new lil one arrived today.  

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Ive decided on a name since this lil bird wont be going to my BIL house he also wont have the name Jake. After spending the last few days with him/her it only makes sence to call this bird lil buddy!! He has really became my buddy...goes everywhere in the house with me and has gone for rides in the van with me. Im ordering him a feather teather because he really enjoys going!!! I am so completley amazed at how much personality this lil conure has and I have to say if anyone ever asked me what I thought the perfect kind of bird is I would have to say conure for sure!! Dont get me wrong, I wouldnt take a million bucks for not one of my birds and they are all perfect to me. This little conure packs ALL the personality of all the different birds Ive spent time with, his noise level is un noticable and Im pretty darn sure it wont cost 100 bucks or more a week to keep him in toys! yup, he is as close to perfect as you can get as far as living with a bird!!! LOL {can ya tell I really like him?}

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Mom2Beebop It's hard to bring heart and mind to peace with each other over decisions. It appears you have so your decision is the right one. I love the name lil Buddy. Nancy


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#101027 - 07/19/07 08:36 PM Re: My new lil one arrived today.  

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My heart and mind is finally in perfect harmony with this...although when I finally get the courage to tell Bobby not this one I will be squirming inside BUT if he cant understand my reasons for stopping the rehomming cycle for this old bird then I wonder if he will EVER GET IT if that makes any sence???

Just got off the phone with mom and I was basically running her ear off in excitment over how happy buddy seems and how tickled I am over this little bird...she mentioned how she cant believe how some people dont want the LITTLE BIRDS because they are little and I told her had I of known better I would of had a half moon conure to start out with and would of stopped there. Thenm I got to laughing and told her Im sending all my bigger birds to her cause I want to DOWN GRADE. {please know thats a total joke between me and mom} I told her any more lil conures get dumped on her door step they have a home!

#101028 - 07/22/07 08:43 AM Re: My new lil one arrived today.  

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update on lil buddy...

This little conure has stolen my heart in a huge way. I just can not believe how much BIRD and personality this lil guy has. He talks all day long, stretches both wings high in the air when I say purty bird with my arms in the air, if I wave one arm up high and say HI BUDDY he waves one wing. He is the COOLEST! He has settled right in and made his self at HOME. I really believe he is happy here with his new forever family. BIL came to visit and I squirmed thru this bird wont be adopted out...I thought I would have a panic attack before I got thru it...he totally understands my reasonings and agrees completley. BIL will become a frequent visitor to his new little friend here. Anyways...he is doing GREAT!

forgot to mention...he is still pretty hand shy but is comming right along quickly concidering all the abuse he has been thru

#101029 - 07/22/07 01:08 PM Re: My new lil one arrived today.  
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I'm so happy for you and Buddy it's sounds like everything is going so well. I'll bet you'll be updating us real soon on him stepping up! Best of luck. Nancy


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#101030 - 07/22/07 06:51 PM Re: My new lil one arrived today.  
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SEEEEEEEEE!!! I knew you'd make the right decision for the right reasons! wink


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#101031 - 07/22/07 08:44 PM Re: My new lil one arrived today.  

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Thank you!!! He really is a sweety! He steps up like a champ...its the actual touching that scares him. I can sometimes pet his head and he really really enjoys it, other times he freeks and screams when I go to fast and forget for a moment what has happened to him. Right now he is even sucking my husband in!!!{thats a big deal!!} Last night I decided if Im gonna do this...Im gonna do it right. Ive decided to file for my 501 c 3. I can only realistically take care of two rescues possibley three depending on the birds and the situation. The word in town has gotten out so Im getting ready. {sigh}

#101032 - 07/24/07 02:25 AM Re: My new lil one arrived today.  

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oh my goodness...he has started playing with this little toy. He is giving it a serious ONE TWO!!! He hasnt really messed with any of his toys...just this one tiny boing looking thing on the play top

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